Welcome to the mid-year “the place are you now?” occasion at Ask a Supervisor! All this week and subsequent, I’ll be operating updates from individuals who had their letters right here answered prior to now.
Bear in mind the letter-writer whose worker was excluded from a team-building occasion (zip-lining) due to their weight? Right here’s the replace.
I wasn’t in a position to remark within the feedback the day that my letter was printed however I did learn a whole lot of the feedback and I admire the recommendation that you simply gave in addition to among the feedback.
Quite a lot of the commenters appeared to imagine that Chris was secretly in opposition to the occasion and that it’s the one crew constructing we do. Chris has, traditionally, been the largest proponent of this particular occasion. They’ve, many occasions, requested that we do this occasion and occasions prefer it extra typically and even introduced it up of their evaluate final yr as one thing they wished we did extra typically. Going to the journey heart is at the moment the one weekend occasion we do, however we do lunches and the occasional after hours occasion all year long. I admire that at many firms opting out of an occasion like this takes political capital, however that’s not the case at my firm or on my crew; individuals are free to decide out of any and all non-work actions with none repercussions and steadily do.
Some commenters apprehensive that once we realized that Chris couldn’t take part, we simply shrugged and went “sucks to be them” and simply went anyway. That isn’t what occurred. Once we realized that Chris wasn’t coming again (they took them to a special room to step on the size after which simply didn’t say something to us), we stopped and talked about what we should always do after which I in the end referred to as Chris, who insisted that we should always go with out them. Nobody on the crew thought that what had occurred was okay, however we knew Chris effectively sufficient to know that they might have been extra upset if we determined to not take heed to what they had been saying. I notice that that half might not have been clear in my letter. I do want that I had mentioned one thing to the journey heart within the second however I used to be not sure of how you can deal with it.
Now for the replace. I caught up with Chris just a few days after it occurred to examine in on them and see how they had been doing. They had been understandably shaken by what occurred however had been placing it behind them. They let me know that they knew what the burden restrict was earlier than we went and that they had been a few kilos over the restrict. That they had hoped that, because it had by no means been questioned prior to now, that it wouldn’t be this yr both. I instructed them that I didn’t agree with the way it was dealt with in any respect and apologized for what occurred. They mentioned that they don’t blame any of us and reiterated that they might not have needed us to not go due to them. They most popular to have some alone time to course of what had occurred anyway.
I did comply with your recommendation and reached out to the journey heart to present suggestions on how they dealt with it and I, sadly, by no means bought a response. Up to now few months, Chris has once more talked about going again to the identical place this fall for the crew constructing, in a method that indicated that they had been wanting ahead to it. They’ve sometimes introduced it up in group discussions however the final time it got here up we had been alone so I straight requested in the event that they needed to do it once more this yr they usually acknowledged that they completely wish to go once more and that they benefit from the different actions that we do all through the day and would do a special exercise in the course of the zip-lining portion.
In the end, I’m not certain what we’ll find yourself doing this fall. I’m nonetheless uncomfortable with how the entire thing was dealt with on the journey heart’s finish. Fortunately I’ve just a few extra months to determine what we’re going to do. However all in all Chris remains to be completely satisfied at our firm — I’m assured on this as they aren’t afraid to inform me after they aren’t, doesn’t blame me for the incident, and nonetheless loves team-building occasions.
